All relationships come to a point where routine life seems mundane and you start to wonder: where did all the romance go? This is a natural step for every couple that moves beyond the in-love phase into a deep, strong, adult relationship. But how to get from here to there is a little trickier. Unlike what many people think, it doesn’t take much effort to keep a marriage alive. In fact, there are some very simple things you can incorporate into your everyday routine.
For example, when you go to bed every night, instead of reading until you fall asleep try pulling the covers over your heads and whisper to each other. It is amazing how intimate and bonding a whispered conversation can get. Another thing you can easily accomplish in everyday life is to have joint dinners. Eating together is a great opportunity to catch up on each other’s day and thoughts. Save time every night to do this without turning to your phones or TV on.
So far we’ve talked about what you should do, but there are also things you should never do. Many unhappy couples say that somewhere along the way they lost touch and could not connect to each other anymore. They do not realize that the falling out of touch does not happen overnight. It starts with not sharing, not talking about how you feel. Next, you confide in someone else, which denies your true partner the role of your emotional support. You might also be dedicating more time to your friends, or prioritizing the kids, or even looking at the phone more often than you look each other in the eye. These are all things that naturally drive you away from each other. Be aware of them and make your choices wisely, on a daily basis.
A relationship is a wonderful thing if nurtured properly. Avoid the things that betray your partner’s trust and adopt the everyday habits that deepen your intimacy.